For a long while, I have been grabbing a pick from time to time out of a sense of ? i'm not sure what. I never liked it and it never felt comfortable in my hand, despite trying several different ones, and Roy's suggesstion of playing with teh rounded corner rather than the tip.

Then I read Bobby Vega's column in Bass Player Mag this month. He suggestes starting with holding your hand so that the thumb is parallel to the strings and the point of the pick is pointing down at 6 o'clock. Then rotate the point to 9 o'clock so that it is resting under the nail of your thumb.
I tried it. I finally get it. Love the tone I get. Feel comfortable. Still can't paly wirth beans, but motivated to get teh skills.

Amazed how such a small thing can make such a large difference.